“But which one is right?” MY opinion on this generation

I’m here today to talk about snowflakes. No, I don’t mean the little white fluffy things we see at Christmas (more like March if you live in Ireland), but the delicate, precious, if-you-touch-them-they-melt, human beings that we have walking among us every day.

 

Now, don’t get me wrong, I could not care less about what religion or sexual preference you have; I don’t even care if you like to wear Tuesday socks on a Friday. But that’s exactly my point – I. Don’t. Care.

 

We live in a generation where people care too much. I will never understand why anyone would want to walk through this earth, getting offended by every minor thing they see or hear, when they would be much happier if they just didn’t give a shit. Likewise, I don’t get why people try to offend others for having different thoughts to them. As a wise man, Ricky Gervais, once said, “Just because you’re offended, doesn’t mean you’re right.” When people get offended by homosexuals, does that mean they’re right? No. When people get offended by someone else’s religion, does that mean they’re right? No. It’s all just opinion.

 

Once upon a time, there was a big bang (or so the theory goes) and this earth was created. There was nothing but plants and animals. Then society came along, decided what was right and wrong and this created opinions, and opinions, as we can see today, create offence. Now, if you are a woman and one day you wake up and you decide that you would like to be a man, go right ahead. But be warned, someone out there is not going to agree with it. In the same way, people who decide to eat a vegan diet would not agree with someone who eats meat. But which one is right? Neither, because it’s all based on opinion and personal preferences.

 

Let’s talk about Friends, the greatest TV show on earth (in my opinion). The show that was once so ahead of its time, due to the same-sex wedding and the transgender character of Chandler’s father, that it was actually banned in parts of the US when it first arrived on our screens in 1994.  But now, since its release on UK Netflix, some millennials believe that the show is offensive to this snowflake generation. One of the main reasons for this was that they found the fat-shaming of Monica to be extremely problematic. But when you think about it, should they really be praising someone for living an unhealthy lifestyle? (Don’t get me started because I could write a whole new blog post about people who praise obesity). Another issue that has been getting a lot of press recently, is the use of the word ‘faggot’ in the classic and amazingly-brilliant Christmas song ‘Fairytale of New York’. Now, this song has been around for years and yes, I know, times have changed, blah blah blah, but if you warriors stepped back from the keyboard for long enough you would realise that this song is about a heterosexual couple, therefore the use of the word faggot here could not mean a gay man, as this would not make any sense. If you then took the time to do a little research, you would see that early usage of the word ‘faggot’ actually meant ‘a repellent man’ which, when you think about the fact that this couple had a love-hate relationship, would make a lot more sense.

 

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In my 21 years of living, I have learned a couple of things and one thing I know is that if you have a different opinion to someone else, you should not get offended when they don’t agree. You also can’t get offended when someone carries out their own personal practises or beliefs just because you have decided that you believe in something different. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion, and just because yours goes against what society deems as ‘normal’ does not mean that your opinion has any more significance than anyone else’s.

 

I saw these Hindu words on an Instagram post today, and I thought it would fit perfectly here. “There are hundreds of paths up the mountain, all leading in the same direction, so it doesn’t matter which path you take. The only one wasting time is the one who runs around and around the mountain, telling everyone that his or her path is wrong.”

 

Now I am aware that this post has probably offended some people, but really, those people should have stopped reading at the word ‘snowflakes’. And that’s the point, if someone doesn’t agree with what you believe in, or if they are talking about something that is going to offend you, don’t take to twitter and tell them they’re wrong or ‘outdated’, just ignore them! Learn not to give a shit. Try accepting that everyone is unique and different and that maybe, just maybe, there is no right and wrong way to live your life.

 

But that’s just my opinion.

 

Niamh Doherty is a final year BSc in Communication Management & Public Relations student at Ulster University. She can be found at: Facebook – https://www.facebook.com/niamh.doc.9 ; Twitter @niamhydoc

 

“Happiness”

“Will we just book flights?”

The 5 words that prompted, what was about to be, the best year of my life.

We kissed our parents’ goodbye at the gate and looked back at them with tears in our eyes, excitement in our hearts. “So this is what they mean by ‘bittersweet’” I thought. The time comes in all of our lives, for us to let go of our parents’ apron strings and for them – to let go of us.

It was the first time I had moved away from home since my first year at University (but we all know that doesn’t count when you are only living in Belfast and you can go home to get your clothes washed every weekend).

Touching down in Perth, there were many emotions and feelings running through me. The majority of this was probably just jet-lag but there was also a little guilt, mixed with happiness and a dash of nerves. However, as soon as I arrived in the city and got my first glimpse of the western coastline, everything else faded into the background and I knew, this was where I was meant to be.

At the beginning, we had no real idea of where we were going, taking each day as it arrived. To most people, we had practically nothing, but we had each other – and that was a lot in my eyes. It was here that I realised what is really important. Like, REALLY. I stopped dwelling on the trivial and instead, starting looking at the bigger picture. Sometimes we just take the time to look up from our phones and appreciate the beauty around us, in the here and the now. (Because when you’re living in a shipping container with just a bed and a toilet, you don’t really have another option.)

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When we arrived in our new home, Byron Bay, it was masked with uncertainty. No one tells you about the struggles of being away from home. It is not all like what you see on Instagram. It can be lonely, it can be tiring, and some days you may wonder if you’re doing it all wrong. But remember, I did say it was the best year of my life. And I wasn’t lying…

As the author, Emily Jenkins, once wrote, “…we’ll deal with it, because the good outweighs the bad”. And that’s exactly what we did – dealt with it. Because when that’s the only choice you have, you make it work; and the result is something more perfect than you can imagine.

One of my favourite sayings became more prominent to me during the first few months of 2018 than ever. “You can’t have a rainbow, without a little rain”. All of a sudden, the tables turned for us. I found myself in a job I had never thought of doing, but one that turned out to be a perfect fit. We managed to find a house better than we ever thought we could afford. And when I looked around me, I was surrounded by the most amazing company I could have wished for. (Not to mention we were in the best place on earth.)

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It was at this point, I realised how completely, truly and utterly happy I was. I know, everybody has a different definition of happiness, but to me this pretty much sums it up (and I think most people will agree):

“Happiness is a feeling of contentment, that life is just as it should be.”

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Niamh Doherty is a final year BSc in Communication Management & Public Relations student at Ulster University. She can be found at: Facebook – https://www.facebook.com/niamh.doc.9 ; Twitter @niamhydoc